Polygamy and Muslim Women

Polygamy is one of the most debated topics between muslim men and women. In Islam, only men can be polygamous and marry up to four women at one time. Polygamy is mentioned in the holy Qura'n in surat Al Nisaa that states Quran (4:3) - "Marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice (to so many) then one (only) or (the captives) that your right hands possess."  As a result of religious scripture that allows polygamy and the culture that tolerates it muslim men have been mostly polygamous throughout Islam's history but how does that effect muslim women?

From my perspective as a muslim women born and raised polygamy leaves women in an unfavorable position. The most disadvantageous thing about Islamic polygamy is that a women has no control over the state of her marriage, she can be forced to enter a polygamous relationship without her consent or sometimes even without her knowledge. Shariah law does not recognize …

Does God Hate Women?

When I was a kid I used to love reading and memorizing the Holy Quran. The thing is that I did not really grasp the meaning of a lot of the verses even though I understood Arabic. Like many of my cousins and friends I just memorized without comprehending. As I grew older I could not help but question some of the verses in the Quran and some ahadith that concern women because they seemed biased and unfair to me. Here is a list of Quran verses and ahadith about women that I found trouble with:

1. Polygamy: Noble Verse 4:3 "If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice." As a women I know that I do not want to share my husband like my husband would not want to share me. Some explanations claim that polygamy can be …

Hoor Al Ayn Issue

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I know that this subject has been discussed numerous times but I want to add my two cents. " Houris " are usually describes as beautiful maidens of heaven that are one of the rewards of Muslim men. These " Houris" are "azwaj" or partners of Muslim men they are there to serve them. There are some ahadith and verses from Quraan that refers to " Houris".

These are some of the ahadith referring to "Houris":
1. According to Ibn Kathir (died 1373 CE) in his Holy Quranic commentary (Tafsir) of the above Surah Al-Rahman (55), verse 72: "The Prophet Muhammad was heard saying: ‘The smallest reward for the people of paradise is an abode where there are 80,000 servants and 72 wives (houris), over which stands a dome decorated with pearls, aquamarine, and ruby, as wide as the distance from Al-Jabiyyah [a Damascus suburb] to Sana'a [Yemen]’." [Tafsir Ibn Kathir]

2. Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "The first…